Online.

Never from China.

I'm not taking that risk.

I'm looking for a good toy too. I keep being linked to adameve.com whether I ask, but no one ever recommends anything for beginners :( I'm guessing just a good basic ~6" dildo would work fine, BUT I DON'T KNOWWWWW

I only go to sex shops in china for my dildos

they're the best source for any kind of lead based sexual pleasure

I've only ever gotten mine from Spencer's. But that's mostly because going to an actual adult store it way too expensive.

>>88
AdamEve.com is bad news- they will spam you quite literally forever. During the Paleolithic era, when everything was mail-order only, and you had to prove your identity to buy rubbers in my hometown, my parents bought rubbers from them. It was after I was born but before I was weaned, and they wanted to ensure that my kid brother would wait a few years before arriving, without the help of birth control pills.

Despite having asked to be taken off their lists, MANY TIMES, my mama is STILL receiving raunchy mailers from them. They were very educational when I was a teenager, but you probably do not want.

By comparison, http://sextoyfun.com has proven cheap, reliable, discreet and easy to search. I used them as a source to get dildos to make into horrifying "art" projects, but they seem like a good place for My First Dildo.

How do you know what size you'll need? Well, this is embarrassing, but it's way better than buying an expensive giant dong you'll never use (most people buy their first sex toy WAYYY too big. Bigger is not better, folks). Get yourself some condoms, some lube, and then, in a *separate* shopping trip, raid the grocery store for cucumbers, carrots, bananas and the like. Bring 'em home, scrub 'em down and wrap 'em up,* then see what feels best. When you find one that works just right, measure its length and width, then buy a toy built to those specs.

*this bit is VERY important. One of my college pals got a Disease from a banana that didn't go away for months. The jokes are still not dead, for that matter.

Before I buy a toy, I make sure it's phthalates-free, so I'm very iffy about shopping online unless it's advertised as pure silicone or is an item made from glass.
What might seem like a deal could arrive smelling like a plastics factory and leave you with a burning vagina/asshole no matter how many times you cleanse the toy. So be careful and be sure to study up before you go to buy.

>>97
I can take my 1" plug perfectly well with no issues, and the ONLY problem on the 2" is that 3" portion towards the end and simply can't fit. So long as I make the girth no longer than 2", I should be fine.

And I never knew that about adameve.com. I need to keep this shit from the rest of my family, so thanks for the heads up about the mailers. I'll either use that site or go to the local sex shop (which thankfully has parking in the back).

>>98
I've had this issue before with my set of plugs, but so long as I keep them in storage, the smell doesn't really permeate all that much, especially after you use them enough.

>>97
Yeah you suggested that website to me ages ago and I was very please. $4 bullet that's still going strong? Thank you /very/ much.

It depends on how you masturbate, also. I don't prefer to use my hands so I enjoy remote controlled toys. My first vibrator was cheap with few frills but it got the job done better than the brush handle I was using previously.

I've been kind of wanting to get something but I've been too nervous to actually seriously go into an adult store. There's one just a walk from my house but it somehow feels skuzzy.

I've got condoms and lube, though, and something vaguely shaped like a dildo. Derp. It's not pliable at all, though. Which I guess some people like, but it's not doing much of anything for me.

>>97
Also Terato, I asked you in the last thread about that Wartenburg wheelydoodle but I'm not sure if you ever saw it. How exactly does it feel like being cut open, again? It sounds like something that might appeal to me more than I'd like to admit.

Can anyone recommend a decent bullet vibrator that wont die about a week in? Or doesn't cost me an upwards of $100.

I got a $45 one recently, it was fantastic, except the motor just up and died on me about 2 weeks in, not to mention it wasn't very powerful to begin with. Oh the lights still work awesome though. Goodjob femplay for recommending me that one. :|

My issue from the last thread remains - Boyfriend is already really understanding regarding my love for fictional characters, does even sexytimes RPs with me, I want to have cosplay sex at some point, it seems rude to me regarding how many favors he already did me. What do?

>>121
Wartenburg wheels were invented to test nerve functioning. If all is right with your nervous system, you'll feel individual pokes from the spikes on sensitive bits, like lips or fingertips. On less-sensitive areas, like your torso or limbs, it just feels like a line of sharpness. When you're blindfolded and can't SEE that it's actually little individual spikes, the sensation is a very convincing stand-in for knife play. The benefit is that the worst damage you can do with a Wartenburg wheel is a pinprick drop of blood, while the worst damage you can do with a slip of the knife is quite bad indeed.

>>125
What you do is, have sex HIS way for a change. Even if you're not really into it, as long as you're not grotesquely disgusted by whatever his kinks are, just play along for him to get his rocks off. Talk to him about it- it may be that just having some sex, ANY sex, with you is all he wants, and he doesn't mind if he has to dress up like Elmer Fudd to get it. In an ideal world, you both get as much of your favourite kind of sex as you ever wanted.

Mmkay, so Mama has absolutely no trouble admitting she's a virgin. And I feel like someone needs to know this about me, even if this someone is the internet. But you guys are awesome and entirely nonjudgemental.

So anyone who's been paying attention to my occasional happy post in the feelings thread knows that Mama has a serioux beau right now, and things are starting to get hot. I find myself not particularly liking the taste of cum but I absolutely love the look on his face when I swallow, so should I feel guilty about that?

Also, my mom gave me the whole "Don't lose it having sex, lose it making love" speech when I was younger, and I finally understand what she means. I'm quite literally close to losing it (boyfriend and I originally planned to hang on Tuesday night, but fucking Aunt Flo hates me) so general first time tips would be awesome.

>>143
I can just say this: Do what you enjoy and let it happen if you feel like it. It just happens then. I made a fuss about everything beforehand, worrying and shit and then it just ... happened. So just go into your sexytimes as usual and go on as you both please.

Also, if it hurts a bit at first, that's really totally normal. Your hymen might even already be open, especially if you do sports. As long as you are relaxed and the both of you are enjoying what's going on, the pain should be over pretty quickly.

Best of luck, girl!

>>133
Sounds like an idea. It's not like I never do what he wants of course - It's just that he doesn't have very clear ideas of what he wants to do with me. He has a small handful of fetishes, but most of them are either focused on unrealistic things or stuff I can't realize that soon. So yeah, I have to quiz him some more.

>>145
I've heard about the hymen already being partially broken or something, I've been doing dance all my life so that might've happened. Also, I hear from a friend that experience with masturbation can also make it less uncomfortable, is this true?

>>143
Most people don't actively like the taste of semen. It's just a thing. If your guy smokes, get him to quit, otherwise, feed him up on lots of pineapple and other fresh fruits, plus plenty of water. I'm not saying it's ever gonna be minty-fresh, but it won't be as bitter. Practise putting him right at the back of your mouth when he's ready to come, so that the jizz goes right down the hatch, or cultivate a taste for facials. It's also OK to keep a glass of water by the bed and cleanse your palate afterward. As long as you're not retching and spitting like he just put a centipede in your mouth, it's fine.

As for first-time penetrative sex, have him go down on you for about an hour first. By the time you've had a nice orgasm or six, you should be relaxed enough to avoid the panic response that our culture instills about LOSING YOUR VIRGINITY (dun dun DUNNNN). Also, if he fingers you while he's at it, it'll help loosen and lubricate stuff in general. Go carefully, use lots of lube, take it slow, and don't wig out if it won't fit initially, or he loses his boner due to terror, or humourous noises occur. Despite what our culture says, it isn't a big deal if this isn't the World's Best Sex Ever. Think of it as a trial run. You'll get better with practise.

I got my first-time sex advice from my cousin. She said it'd hurt in a persistent, low-grade, spleen-jostling kind of way. My first time was kind of awkward, and I freaked out and made the poor boy stop halfway through (though he was very graceful about it), but it actually went way better than I'd hoped.

>>143
As others have said, just be chill and go with the flow. I always reiterate to everyone, if he doesn't respect you saying no, or you don't respect him saying no, something is very, very wrong. Just do what's comfortable.

And don't forget condoms! Despite what movies say, you really can get pregnant the first time you have penetrative sex. Be safe! And remember, it's okay to laugh if something is super awkward. It'll break up any tension, and, in my experience, makes the moment more intimate.

Be safe and have fun!

I use EdenFantasys. No spam letters unless you sign up or something and I think you can opt out of them anyways, good prices, HUGE selection. Definitely recommend that.

My first insertable toy is the Bgood in pink (because I'm a girlfag like that), it's slim but not too small, good length, strong vibrations, pretty sure it's phthalates-free (no smell and no burn EVER), velvety feel and not sticky, and pretty good for people who don't know jack about toys. Traditional in every sense of the word, no extra doohickeys, yadda yadda. http://www.edenfantasys.com/vibrators/traditional-vibrators/bgood

I wouldn't know shit about first time sex or hymens, as a kid I was a dancer, gymnast, horseback rider, and sports player so by the time I figured out what vagina was that thing was probably TOTALLY shredded, lol. But generally yeah I would think masturbation might help, as well as using tampons or something to either help break it early or at the least stretch so it doesn't hurt once it finally breaks. From what I've heard though, unless you have a very thick or non-elastic hymen, it generally won't hurt or bleed at all, so that part is nothing to be afraid of. Some people don't even have them to begin with lol.

Long story short if you're legal, informed, protected, and -absolutely sure- you're ready, go for it. And if things don't go perfect then remember you're just like everyone else and there's nothing to fear.

Are there any Aussie-nons with online toy shop references? I had no idea vibes were so expensive and they seem to be cheaper overseas (what with the dollar being so good and all :s)

My first time hurt and was awkward but my second time was /fabulous/. Like what Marty said, try to ease the pressure off it being the BIG NIGHT and just think of it as practice for something that can be amazing and great after a while.

>>143
Let me just tell you right now: Don't be on top. Not for your first time. All that "it lets you control the rhythm" is bullshit, missionary is a much better angle for your first time. At least, in my experience; you could very well have totally different angles inside, but I doubt there's that much variation. The penetration also doesn't have as much of a chance of getting too deep if things get painful or uncomfortable.

tl;dr DON'T BE ON TOP. YOU HAVE A LIFETIME TO TOP YOUR MAN, DON'T TRY TO BE A HERO YOUR FIRST TIME OUT.

Goddamnit I KINDA forgot that Chi reads the chan too.
Oh well he agreed on cosplay sex so I have nothing to complain about.
Chi, you rock.

Hey Girlfags, what experience have ye with receiving oral? Because I have a little but it wasn't that wonderful and in fact felt mostly awkward, and I was wondering if this is a case of doinitwrong, particularly considering my man told me he doesn't actually enjoy it, and in fact struggles with not retching with hair in his mouth.
Not that he's asked me to shave/wax etc. We share the opinion that a lack of hair-down-there is reminiscent of one thing - pre-pubescent children. And that is not cool.
N.B. Also interested to hear the chan's thoughts on that.

>>271

Yeah, I've also wanted to know what's so great about getting oral as a girl. I mean, the tongue barely goes in at all, and it's probably awful for the guy. I've gotten it once and I barely liked it at all, so I'd like to know why it's sooo great.

>>271
>>272

As someone who has gotten off on getting oral, it really depends on if your partner has any skill with it. My partner was basically taught how to properly eat a girl out by a lesbian, so he's gotten enough skill with his tongue to properly pull off cunnilingus. It's all stimulation of the clitoris, and if he can't find it, or you're not that responsive, then maybe it's not for you. I think it works better for me because I cum pretty easily.

So, yeah, just slobbering all over your pussy isn't really going to do much.

>>271
Have you tried just shaving the lower parts? You don't have to be completely bare but I've had much success with shaving or waxing the hair on the labia and leaving the mons alone or trimmed. There are more options available than just completely smooth or untrimmed shrubbery.

>>271
If you are interested in cunnilingus
I suggest you try or do a variation of the "landing strip" look
http://commons.wikimedia.org/wiki/File:Pubic_hair_style_Landing_Strip.jpg
It keeps hair out of the mouth, allows for better hygiene, and prevents the creepy prepubescent look of being bare.

Cat pretty much has it on the nose...It's all about clitoral stimulation and directing your man till you find what works for you. Some people find it more pleasurable than others.

>>271
My beau absolutely loves it, and Cat definitely has it right, because when it's done right, oh man is it right. I do reccomend a landing strip, though maybe with more hair than what's illustrated - it keeps you clean, but there's still enough there to avoid day-to-day discomfort with panties.

>>281
Yeah, you're right, being OVER sensitive though can kinda kill it. So far I could never hold out for long while receiving oral simply because I couldn't endure the feeling. Hurm.

>>286
Then maybe direct clitoral stimulation isn't your thing? I actually love it when the areas /around/ my clit are touched rather than the clit itself because I'm so sensitive it almost hurts sometimes.

It's getting to be that time of year when Vikings start getting frisky -

KGBoyfriend - "Are you drawing porn? COOL!"

KGBigelow - "You know that these are all men, right?"

KGBoyfriend - "Yeah, whatever gets you wet.." (grope grope, hump hump)

I have zero sexual experience. I haven't been asked out or kissed, and I feel really hesitant to schlick because I live with overprotective parents who don't understand the concept of privacy/body issues. Just no idea how to start.

>>295
The shower is your godsend.

>>295
Getting privacy is part of asserting your own identity; very archetypally teen-aged, utterly necessary to your socio-cultural development, and subject to undue resistance from some paranoid parents. Simple steps:

Obtain and install a simple eye-hook latch on your bedroom door. Don't necessarily mention this to your parents. Do ask that they knock before they come in. Set a glass of water or similar by the corner of the door, where it will be knocked over should they barge in (make it look accidental- "geez, mom, if you'd KNOCKED, I coulda moved that water!"). Get them accustomed to knocking before coming in, then start latching the door behind you. That will give you enough security to start doing whatever you want to do.

TMI time- I didn't start fappan til I was 17. I was terrified of and disgusted by that portion of my person. Avoiding sex like that made me WEIRD. Deeply pervertedly weird. The sex maniac you see before you now is largely a product of trying too hard to repress my (perfectly reasonable) adolescent urges. Believe it or not, I am way less of a creeper now than I was at age 17. Better sense of humour, too.

>>295
>>298

I didn't even know how to find my own clit until I was about 17. I knew this one spot felt good but I didn't really know why and I was never motivated enough to fetch a hand mirror and explore. But combine that with my dislike of using my hands and masturbation was very tricky.

Once you get your privacy established don't sweat if you're doing anything "properly." If something feels good, keep doing it. Don't be afraid to bring objects into play too (I had a trusty brush handle before I was able to buy my own "real" toys).

Hey guys, I have an odd question.

I recently found out that I'm asexual. It's not that nothing can ever turn me on, I've just never thought the idea of having sex(oral, anal, vaginal etc.) was pleasing.

Well, just not on myself anyway. I'd still like to have a relationship but how do I tell the person I'm dating that I don't want to have sex?

Well, honestly I have no trouble telling someone I'm asexual (im a very bold and vocal kind of person) but what I can do in a relationship to make the other person happy?

(And no, I'm not just opposed to penetration. I'm all around asexual, including clitoral stimulation.)

Also, TMI I believe I was born without a clitoral hood (or a smaller one) and touching my clit seems to do nothing. No idea whether that is psychological or not, any ideas?

>>300
I know this is a pretty shitty advice because love can't be forced/unforced, but how about trying to get in touch more with other asexuals? Maybe there are some in your area you'd like to meet and maybe more? Just suggesting.

I was thinking about anoning for this but, fuck it. I like how my art is heading this thread again. :|

It seems whenever some women are describing an orgasm that it's like the most wonderful crazy feeling ever, so much so there is a clear bodily reaction like shaking for minutes afterward, screaming, or "blacking out", etc.

I see it so often that I'm partially convinced that I've never had one. But that can't really be it because I've had release and it's pleasant, but it wasn't like omfgawesome as "everyone" seems to paint it. Sometimes I think it's just because the partner at the time just wasn't good, or I just having hit the buttons just right, or maybe because I'm in all likelihood asexual that it wouldn't be so intense because of this. I mean, the fact that it just kind of a nice "meh" feeling makes me less inclined to want to engage in the activity, which may become a problem if I get a steady partner down the road.

What do the sex gurus think?

>>304
Are you me? I've been thinking this too. But not anymore. You know why? Because it doesn't fucking matter. Orgasm, no orgasm, as long as you had fun, what's the big deal?
Let me tell you that each and everyone's orgasm is different. Some women have these crazy orgasms where they black out, others just have this mild feeling of satisfaction. Both is perfectly healthy and normal.

Sex is not about achieving an orgasm all the time like it's a race or something - It's about having fun together. As long as that's the case, screw orgasms.

>>275
(original q-asking anon here)
It still kinda wigs me out, the thought of "taming" pubic hair (I'm fine with armpits and legs, it's just a thing). Plus, I'm terrified to do it myself, in case it goes horribly wrong, and mortified to ask someone else to do it. I am not very girly when it comes to things like that. I haven't even had my hair cut in a bit over two years.

>>304
I had this exact mindset for years. Then I gained Current Boyfriend of +7 Dynamite-In-The-Sack. It's entirely possible that it's an unsatisfiable thing (Current Boyfriend is also +3 First-Time-I've-Ever-Fallen-In-Love, so that probably helped for me), but I was pretty much convinced that everyone had hyped up orgasm in some kind of cruel trick to make women not in on the joke feel inadequate and unsatisfied.
But then I had a proper one and everything went legit white and I stopped thinking in sentences (this never happens for me - my mind automatically types shit up before I say it, and my internal narration is punctuated). It was awesome.

I got slightly sidetracked there I think so I hope that helped a little.

>>307
(I should namefag so I can keep track of this conversation; I am >>310 again)
This, too. The OH LAWDY I THINK I'M IN SPAAAACE reaction is by no means consistent or even particularly frequent, despite Current Boyfriend's awesomeness. Mostly it's about closeness, and fun, and I'll admit I absolutely love watching him get off nearly as much as I do myself.

Oh and this one time, at band camp, I stuck a flute in my pussy.

SUPPORT EVERYWHERE

>>298
pff, i didn't start until i was 20

>>304

Yo! I thought I was asexual for the longest time too (didn't even know how to masterbate until I was 17) - then I had sex with a man(same dude I'm gonna die with) for the first time when I was 20. So it turns out that I actually have a LOT of very strong urges, I just grew up sexually repressed; my parents were older and they each had careers that ate up all their time, and my mom was really conservative and overprotective (didn't even want me watching the WWF - but I did it anyway because I'm a bad-ass bitch >:I). It was good for me academically, being basically trained to not be interested in men in a sexual way. But you can probably tell looking at the way that I drew men(especially my older stuff) that I had some weird psychological/sexual shit floating around in my head.
It sounds bad, but putting my stuff up here and getting feedback from actual women (gay men?) that it's OKAY to be a big lady and love the cock actually helped me become more 'normal', so that all that sexual energy can be channeled into something other than artwork that I want to be taken seriously by galleries and non-pornographic publishers - like actual sex. It also helped me come to terms with the fact that I'm also partial to girls (TMI time - I got hit on and indulged female friends in highschool - nothing serious, just making out and talking. I got the same kind of warm fuzzy that I got from the same kind of 'harmless' interaction with male friends). KGBoyfriend called his brother and bragged to him about this for an hour after he found out.

Normally, I wouldn't be giving advise to strangers about sex because of how lucky I got with KGBoyfriend. But you remind me of a younger me, Kilo. i can see, looking at your work that you objectify men the same way I do. Objectification is just ONE way to explore your sexuality. It helps take all those complicated thoughts out of simply appreciating the human body for what it is. Human beings are the most sexually motivated species on the planet - but we are also the most psychotic species. Of course there's a physical response to sexual stimulation - but your brain is the key player in sex. And that's okay - one day you will meet a cock (or a sweet farm girl with huge tits) that will tickle you just right and things will fall into place.

dammit, I wrote a book.

Time for an asexual to step into this conversation, no?

>>300
Be up front about it. When sex comes up, just tell the truth. Though I want to advise you - what your brain thinks and what your body thinks can be two very different things. Take myself for example. My brain loves the idea of sex. But, my body does not have a physical response to people. I am not physically attracted to people. I've had enough experience to be sure that if my body were going play, it would have by now. So my advice is to experiment a little first before you decide you're really asexual. It sounds as if you have not had sex or attempted masturbation, and you should really try the latter before writing off the former completely.

Don't get me wrong though, sex is really gross. That's just the nature of it though.


>>304
I'm going to go with KGBigelow a little on this one, and say that you should make sure you're not repressing yourself at all first.

Second, as long as sex is still fun, it probably won't be an issue, but if you do feel less inclined to partake and you're in a steady relationship, it's just a compromise, like any other part of a relationship. Make sure you discuss your sexual selves openly in any relationship and work out what is mutually best for both of you.


And a note on asexuality - it can be different for others, but how it manifests in me is a complete lack of physical attraction response to people. Pretty much everyone has their "type" that gets their rocks off, but I don't. I also find that sex is pretty "meh" - I generally don't enjoy it, and my orgasms are a very "meh" experience as well, so I am disinclined to participate.

>>304
Straight dude here, so second-hand info only, but you've probably had an orgasm. "Normal" orgasms can be anything from a porn-style clench & squeal to "unf, done". I've seen extreme reactions like you've described, but they weren't a routine occurance - doable with a good partner, but not par for the course.

It's the same with guys, too. I've had orgasms I barely noticed, and I've had orgasms that practically set off car alarms in a five-block radius. The intensity's dependent on a whole bunch of things, which probably vary from person to person.

Those stories you're hearing are probably about that one OH MY FUCKING GOD AMAZING time she had, or being with a partner who knows them inside-out. So don't sweat it too bad.

>>383

Also, objectification is fun.

Thanks for the info.

I'm pretty sure I'm not repressed, though. God knows I had urges since I was 9 and given the opportunity would act on them in physical ways. It seems the desire there is just, maybe a little less than what's considered the norm, but who knows.

It probably is just a matter of finding the right partner but it's been 2 years since the last which I don't even really count because I found out my attachment was one sided (which was devastating). Unfortunately the process of finding partners is difficult as I don't do casual, and the ones I come across never want to commit. Forever alone.

>>389
Kilo, believe me, you are not forever alone. Love can be a bitch, but I still believe there's one for everyone, as naive as that sounds. Just don't be desperate. Meet people on cons, in hobby clubs, even on forums based on the area where you live and gain new friends. One of them might be your next partner, who knows? Have fun and let it happen when the opportunity arises. Don't worry too much.

>>394

Define desperate. Because when I don't actively think about finding a partner, I come off as uninterested to potential ones because then I don't flirt and focus on things that aren't building relationships.

This has happened to me on a few occasions where I had to have other friends go "Dude, he's so into you" and I'm like "Buh, what? Really?" which by that time said guys moved on.

Anyway, since this is a sex thread and not a love thread, I recommend replying via IM.

>>300
Date other asexuals. There's more of them out there then you'd might think, and it's a hell of a lot easier. \o/

>>386
Yeah, that's kinda what it's like for me, too. Sex doesn't interest me. It just seems like a waste of time. It might be because I have such a vivid imagination and anything I imagine is a lot better than any sex I've ever had.
I'd much rather fap to my own fantasies (I rarely look at porn) or RP with someone. It's loads more entertaining.
And irl sex is just gross anyway.

Anyway- What's your favorite kink/fetish, and how do you think you started liking it?

Mine is gore/guro.
(which most of you probably know, I mean c'mon you can't have a picture of gore on the chan without me all over it. Also I help keep the gurochan thread alive)

Surprisingly, though, not too long ago I was very, VERY fearful of gore, mostly when shock images were popular. I couldn't understand why someone found guro HOT. But I found myself staring at guro pictures longer. And longer. And then I started fantasizing about it. And now it's all I think about.

Real gore doesn't do anything for me though. Actually, I'm still kinda afraid of real gore. One of the reasons why I decided I didn't want to become a paramedic after all. :T

I have a question that was posed to be by someone giving a speech to our school while talking about modern culture in high school:

Why does it seem like society makes virginity look like a disease that you have to get rid of as soon as possible?

I am a virgin, and relatively proud of it (Admittedly one of those, "When I find the man of my dreams and get married" people) and have seen lots of things where people brag about having sex and mocking others who haven't- not here obviously, but I mean on TV, in music, and in movies. Why do you think that is?

As for asking for advice, what if you have a fetish that is seen as rather taboo and you know is mocked by others? I have one or two friends who share it, but overall it's something I get embarrassed when mentioning.

>>399
I honestly don't know. I think it's because of my generally relaxed attitude towards such things - To each their own. Sex is not serious business or some shit. You have it when you want to, not when people yell "HOW CAN YOU BE A VIRGIN GET SOME SEX GEEZ"
Maybe it's sort of a remaining instinct? The need to prove yourself as fertile and desirable? No matter what, people shouldn't give two shits about it. Sex is so much more fun when you treat it like, well, fun, and not like your life's only purpose.

Also regarding the fetish thing: As long as you don't go around telling everyone about your fetishes (which you shouldn't do anyway no matter what fetishes you have because it's annoying out of context) you should be fine. I know that here, nobody cares what you like, embarrassing or not - I mean, we have the hots for fictional parody men who kill each other gruesomely all the damn time. When you put it like that, that's pretty pathetic. But who cares?
If you need more people to discuss your fetish with, look for forums and boards online. I'm sure there is one for you.

>>399
>Why does it seem like society makes virginity look like a disease that you have to get rid of as soon as possible?

There are a couple different reasons. First, our society is just getting over a period that prized virginity, particularly women's virginity, very highly. (Men weren't even part of the concept of "virgin.") "Getting rid of" your virginity is a way of proving you're not part of that stodgy mindset. For boys, our culture has always put a premium on sexual experience, so "getting rid of" your virginity is a way to seem like a manly man.

Similarly, the major proponents of keeping your virginity are retrograde religious weirdos. Hands up all those who want to be like the Mormons!

Finally, in our consumer culture, sex is used to sell stuff, and the ads designed to make the products, whatever they are, look awesome ALSO manage to make sex seem like the most important thing ever. (See left).

Basically, sex is fashionable right now, virginity is out. The concept of 'self-actualisation' or even just 'doing what feels right' are not really part of the discourse.

'Nother question:
People who constantly talk about their sexual encounters IRL, unprompted. I find this intimidating, unless I know the person really well. What are your thoughts?

I mention this because I have a friend who does this. And I have been reliably informed by two of his "conquests" that he's not that great anyways. But I used to wig out about him trying to put a move on me. And now we're actually pretty good friends, it doesn't bother me so much, as I tend to aggressively flirt with my close friends for jokes. Just not people I don't know so well.

I consider myself asexual because... honestly, I can't see myself dating somebody. I mean, I might like to, in the future, if I found a girl I liked enough, but... I'm kinda "meh" on the whole thing.

Also Showerheads are love. <3

>>412
Oh, uh. Just tell me to STFU. Sorry about that.

>>441
p sure that asexual is not wanting to have sex, not just that you can't get anything.

Any others here with clothing kinks? I know of our crossdressingfags, but do we have others?

I know I like a mighty fine dressed guy more than anything. Whatever looks manly and well groomed is good in my book - Like suits, uniforms, leather, the like. A well dressed men makes me drool without even an inch of his chest or genitalia uncovered.

>>396
> Fantasies and RP
Glad I'm not the only one. And if I'm ever in a "need porn" mood (this is incredibly rare) I usually scout for hours and hours trying to find a couple that sound like what I'm looking for - I don't usually even bother watching the damn thing.

>>481
I. Fucking. Love. Longcoats. And I mean the real ones, the ones that come down near to your ankles and billow out with the breeze. They seem to exude confidence and intrigue and they also look warm and protective. Just yum.
Guys in sweaters are extra-cute, and I like gloves and ties. But they don't feel nearly as sexually appealing as a good coat.

Alrighty, question time - I usually feel super icky about using my fingers on bare flesh, when it comes to proper stimulation. Is that.. odd? Anyone have suggestions to get over the ick? I find when I'm rubbing through something the stimulation feels alot more.. even, for lack of a better word. But if I'm not even comfortable handling myself properly, I can't imagine having much fun when I find a proper partner.

>>481
All military uniforms, all the time.

God, no wonder I'm a virgin. :P

>>490
Ever thought about trying toys and using them to get more comfortable with handling your body?
Also, if it's of any consolation, I'm not keen on my own fingers being in my private parts but I love Chi's there. It might just be something you feel towards your own fingers.

It seems to me that there is a prevailing stigma around the idea of 'serious dating' here - as in, just because you are not interested in 'dating' you are therefore asexual.
Seriously kids - if you get the tiniest little tingle down there for whatever reason, you're not asexual. You just don't know what you want yet. And so long as you have ONE friend you are never alone.
there's no rushing these things. explore without shame. Just remember that repression can lead you down to some pretty dark corridors that can have adverse affects on your day to day life, believe me.

oh damn - in my rant I forgot to mention that I just like big, tough, manly dudes. That's my thing. It doesn't matter what they're wearing or what they're doing - so long as they're still in pretty good shape, with perma-stubble and scars and shit and can take some punishment.
yeah that's right. I'm into some good old fashioned bondage and S+M.

>>502
>Seriously kids - if you get the tiniest little tingle down there for whatever reason, you're not asexual.
Plenty of Asexuals have sex drives,but are either not attracted to males or females, or simply just have no interest in sex at all with another person.
There are Autosexual "Asexuals" too,btw.

>>504.
fuck it let me just link the AVEN wiki page. Sage for doublepost.
http://www.asexuality.org/wiki/index.php?title=Asexuality

>>412
I find that totally obnoxious. I'm probably massively old fashioned but I don't want to know how many people my friends have fucked in the last week or so. This is why I had no friends all through college! Haha.

>>304
Kilo, people exaggerate. Thats all I can say haha. There are probably varying (spelling?) degrees of pleasure for it but ultimately I think most people ham it up.

>>307
>Sex is not about achieving an orgasm all the time like it's a race or something - It's about having fun together.
I thought I was the only one who thought this. I love you more every day Perry. :3c

Imo there are far too many types of -sexuals. There should just be COCKsexual, CUNTsexual, ALLsexual, or NOT-BOTHEREDual. That said, I've no idea wtf I'd be anyway.

Good shop for Brits; getmepleasure.com
I'm not sure if they ship to other countries or anything though. Fast delivery and discreet packaging/receipts. They do amazing daily deals too, I got something worth £50 for £8 including delivery. Heck yes!

>Imo there are far too many types of -sexuals. There should just be COCKsexual, CUNTsexual, ALLsexual, or NOT-BOTHEREDual

I dunno if it even needs to be defined that far. I'd be ok with people either being 'sexual' or 'non-sexual'. Either you're interested in it, or you aren't.

I don't care if you enjoy sex with other people or not. Just don't come onto a TMI sex discussion thread and say that you're asexual. it's a gross misuse of the word. Non-sexual people have better things to do with their free time.

Anyway - another bit of unsolicited ranting - if you don't buy underwear online, why buy sex toys online?
Just go to the porno store like everyone else. If you have questions, ask the person behind the counter - they work at a porno store, so they know a little bit about sex, and there's no way they can judge you.

>>539
Why shop online?
Mostly because alot of stuff that is sold at your average porno store is crap quality or grossly overpriced. Alot of the "advanced" equipment and devices that they sell at the big one closest to me are all cheap Chinese garbage. I mean it's pretty bad when a restraint system or a harness doesn't even have measurements on the box.

>>539
I live in Texas! All the porno stores are miles out on the highway in the middle of nowhere, in derelict ex-gas stations with flickering neon signs that read XXX ADULT DVDS XXX, peopled with complete skeevers! I have zero interest in going out there when I can just use the damn internet.

>>544
But you meet such interesting people!

>>545
Man, that's why I hang around travelling carnivals late at night when they're doing teardown. Carnies are awesome, but I don't consider them good company for picking out sex toys.

>>539
I'm disappointed how categorized you're trying to make sexuality. Just because someone identifies as asexual does not mean that they haven't had sex. I personally have built up quite some experience because I was trying to figure out who I was sexually. And even an asexual person probably uses toys and masturbates, and maybe they have questions regarding that. Honestly, you don't seem to know very much about asexuality and are ignoring the nuances of each individual person's sexuality, and are attempting to lump people into broad generalizations. I feel like you could use a little research on the subject, and I think you should check out the site that Eudevie posted in >>507.

For anyone who wants to know about my experiences as an asexual, I am glad to talk about it.

I'd just like to remind everyone that sexuality is not black and white. It's a fuzzy color wheel with everything in between. Some of us just use certain words to help us identify who we are, and it's okay to not be the exact definition of a word you identify with. You just have to pick what you feel comfortable describing yourself as, and that's all that matters.

Pro-tip for people trying to find a place to buy babby's first sex toy online: Amazon sells shit, as in fulfilled by Amazon through their "Sexual Wellness" section. A lot of quality stuff is heavily discounted compared to buying from a shop, and you won't get embarrassing mailers. If you set it to not factor into your recommendations, you won't even get e-spammed.

... can we get back to the female squirting ejaculation and dicks please.

Honestly, guys. It doesn't matter. It does not matter if you would have it in a house, or with a mouse, or with a fox, or with a box. If you don't want them here or there or anywhere.

Oh god what did I just type.

And yes, if you don't like this thread just tab it. No need to come up in here all LOOK AT ME I'M ASEXUAL. And no need to rant against them, either.

Come now we don't need babysitting in this thread.

>>564
Let's get back to the dicks and the bones with this post, shall we?

Ok question;

When I have sex, I would have what I THOUGHT was an orgasm... I would squirt (yes, hello, another squirter here) and it would feel good.

But lately I acquired a vibrator and when I use it directly on my clitoris or on the hood, I have what I can only assume is also and orgasm. My body trembles, suddenly I feel flash- hot, and it's the most intensely amazing-feeling few seconds of my life. It's so amazing that I'm afraid I have ruined regular sex for myself. Will I have to fake orgasms for my man from now on? Just... the old "orgasm" pales in comparison to this new orgasm, which leads me to the question, which one is real? I mean, there's such a difference in the level of pleasure... was I not really having orgasms before?

>>575
As we already established, orgasms can vary heavily from woman to woman and also each time you have sex. It seems like you react best to clitorial stimulation - And you shouldn't worry about that. Why don't you just incorperate this the next time you have sex with a guy? He can lick and rub your clit too. Tell him how you like it and he can follow suit. You can also use toys while having sex, it works better than you might expect. Stimulating your clit and having good sex doesn't have to be seperate!

>>575

yes that is an orgasm. and no, those were orgasms too - just less intense ones. Once you've figured out how to trigger those more intense moments, it's my assumption that you could share this with your man and he'll play ball - just for your reaction and the tightening that happens when you climax. Sounds like you just respond well to clitoral stimulation - one idea would be him or you rubbing or using the vibrator on your clitoris while he's inside. Just a suggestion though. You guys need to work that bit out.

>>275
Other options you say? How about hair extensions down there?

*is shot*

>>599

I was trolling my boyfriend once and I asked him what he thought about me getting extensions down there.

He didn't say anything.

In regards to shaving the lady bits, I've tried it multiple times before, just around the edges to tidy things up a bit. And though I swear I did everything right--fresh razor, warm water, shaving cream, lotion, the works--I might as well have been rubbing myself with poison ivy the way it itched afterward. For days. Is shaving just not an option for me or is there more I can do to avoid the razor burn from hell? (At least I think it was razor burn, though I've never gotten it elsewhere so I can't make a good comparison.)

>>609
You may have, like many women, very sensitive skin down there. And you do seem to be doing everything right. I'd suggest looking into hair removing lotions for sensitive skin or perhaps lotion specifically for shaving that part of the body. You can find some available at most adult stores or websites.


Also I used to have great orgasms with my partner. Some stronger than others. Then I discovered my own personal trick while masturbating and I literally saw stars. But it doesn't happen every time and sometimes it happens almost automatically. It depends on the person and the method and what /you/ like most.

>>609
You can try and shave with baby oil and use aloe vera on the clean skin afterward...Alot of my friends swear on this method. There is also a after shave lotion that Nivea makes that is supposed to work wonders as well that I have yet to try. Personally, I do not like to use lotion or oil because it tends to break out my skin really bad.

From my experience, I find the more you shave the area, the more you become accustomed to shaving. If I let it grow back all the way, when I do go for a shave, the next day I am welcomed with red irritated skin and ingrown hairs. If I keep it trimmed and shaved, both issues seem to go away.
Also, I find using manly 3-4 bladed shavers rather than pink throwaway daisy shavers tend to irritate A LOT less. My guy has a Mach 3 and because he had sensitive skin and says disposables rape his face I thought it would work well downstairs...I was very pleased with the results. When I work through the last of my throwaways, I'm buying one for myself.

>>271
>>609
>>621

Nothing wrong with scissors as a last result. I get pretty unpleasant razor rash on my face (there was also that one time downstairs NEVAR AGAIN) so I grew a bit of a beard which I keep short & neat-ish. Same can be done elsewhere.

Marty:

Wartenberg wheel was a good idea. If anyone else is as hypersensitive as me I enthusiastically suggest it.

I just need to find a partner to get the hard to reach places...

wow, tf2chan is the last place I'd think to talk about my masturbation issues.

anyhow, I'm a virgin and I can't seem to shlick properly. this is the first year I've actually tried to masturbate, and I can't get myself off at all. rubbing feels pretty good, but it doesn't do all that much. I've tried fingering, but it does absolutely nothing. should I try toys or just wait?

>>666
It is /so hard/ for me to get off with just my fingers. It's only happened for me maybe four times EVER. I'd suggest a cheap bullet or vibrator to help you out. Also perhaps shlicking though a layer of cloth like your panties would give you the difference in sensation to push you over the edge.

>>666
Are you having trouble finding your clit? That may be the problem.

Offtopic: nice post get.

>>666

Oho, I'm a long time masturbator (twenty, started at age ten or eleven) and I just figured out how to have a real orgasm without anything but fingers in the last year. So don't fret girly. I improvised early on- my best friends were those three pronged back massagers they sell for like 5 bucks everywhere (like at Staples) and then my friend in the picture. Try things! Just be safe and don't use like... knife handles or unwashed/covered vegetables...

Not exactly sex, but it has to do with something down there.

The skin right between my crotch and my inner thighs sometimes rubs right off, it's painful and leaves it raw. And it's also itchy at times; I've checked for crabs, I don't have any, and I haven't had sex so this seems odd to me. I did shave right there, but only the smaller hairs for hygeine. I'm not quite sure what's wrong, should I stop trimming everything for a while and see what happens?

Shit's not excruciatingly painful, but it's annoying.

Straight female here. I find penetrative sex (vaginal) really...not pleasant? Not painful (anymore) exactly, but not unpainful, if that makes sense? It just kind of feels like someone is jabbing my organs with a blunt object. Which I guess is basically accurate.

Where is this wonderful "ahhh, faster, harder!" feeling I hear about where getting a dick in you is the most wonderful thing ever? I just find it unpleasant and want it to be over as soon as it starts.

Is it bad to be a 21 year old female whose never been in a relationship? My first fucking kiss was at a rave when I was 18 with some guy who was high. The closest thing to sex I got was with some friend who I conned into almost having a friends with benefits relationship until I pussied out after we sucked each other off (or i sucked him off, I didn't really get any pleasure from his tongue on me).

I feel like there's something wrong with me sometimes, like I'm the last goddamn virgin girl in California. I don't even want to be a virgin, and i know it'd be easy to just throw it away at some shady ass bar somewhere, but I don't even want to do that. I should probably find myself a guy, but that'd be selfish considering how many issues that they'd have to deal with. Plus, there are so many other women out there that I can't even compete

>>687
No. I didn't have my first kiss until this past summer and I'm 23. It doesn't matter that you're 21 and still a virgin; I'm 23 and still a virgin and I don't care at all. There are more important things in life than losing your virginity and being in a relationship.

>>684

Maybe the problem is the angle or the length? If it's all stabby and akward, then it shouldn't go as deep. Without the shank-shank feeling, it should feel a lot better, I think.

>>684
maybe he keeps hitting your cervix? although the cervix has no nerves in it per say, it does cause painful pressure on everything around it if it's hit. He could be going too deep and/or too hard, or you just might have a shallow vaginal canal. Us girls have a lot of internal plumbing, so jostling is bound to occur. May I suggest having him finger around on you a little and see where that takes you?

>>679
Baby powder. Best discovery I ever made.

>>702
MAIS NON! Get this, instead.

>>667
it seems to feel better with panties on, I'm not sure why.
>>671
I've used a mirror to explore down there, so I know where it's all at, I just can't find the pleasure points.
>>673
I've actually done just that! it feels ok, but I can't seem to get passed that point.

>>700
The fuck? That ain't where pussy goes! Who drew that diagram, a DeviantArd? Also, I want to point out that the penis doesn't stay ruler-straight when it goes in. It sort of angles up like a banana, to follow the conformations of the receptive partner's insides. ... I seriously think that whoever drew that diagram drew a cartoon boner and then tried to arrange the ladyparts around it. No offence to you, KGBig, and everyone else's advice stands- try different angles, maybe shallower penetration, and it may just be that fucking ain't your favourite thing, 684.

>>679
If the chafing is caused by sweat, the baby powder should help. If it's caused simply by your skin rubbing together or by shaving, the cream should work.

However....the fact that it itches (unless you only get this problem when you shave) kind of sounds like a yeast infection. For overweight women, it is no uncommon to get an infection on your thighs/crotch. To cure apply baby powder to the infected area. If you are indeed obese and it becomes a chronic problem, see a doctor about it.

This scenario happens to me occasionally, and I was wondering if anyone had any thoughts on it.

I'll have a dream where I have a sex partner that turns me on, and the sex is amazing, and it feels oh-so-good and I have a mind-blowing, body-quivering, brain-dead orgasm. But when I'm not in dreamland, people turn me off, sex never really feels good even when I'm ready to go, and is usually painful because I'm not aroused, and I've never had an orgasm beyond some quivering. So after I wake up from this dream, my body is ready to go get some action, but I avoid it because I know how it will end up.

Just curious for any thoughts beyond turning to friend massage showerhead?

>>815
Better partners and/or practice is all I've got for ya.

And here's me wishing for sexy dreams. I keep getting that one with the raptors and the custard.

>>842
You don't want my sex dreams. I have them very rarely but when I do they are really weird. Yesterday I dreamt I was talking to my friends about TF2 while having sex with my boyfriend in a colorful Escher-esque room. Freud would have a field day with this.

I would just like to take a moment to brag that I had a sex dream last night that WASN'T thwarted by social anxiety or inability to find a rubber (IRL I can manage those; in dreams, they're insurmountable). This dream was just hot fucking, on my face, arm twisted up behind my back... by a Predator. Successful dream rape by a carnivorous extraterrestrial. Awwyeah.

>>815
After thinking about this, I've realized that it's just frustrating that my brain thinks sex is "FUCK YES AWESOME" and my body disagrees. I could be ready to go, but as soon as another person enters the scenario my body decides that it is repulsed and shuts all fun functions down. At least I only get into a mood like that a few times a year. I think I'd go crazy if it was more than that.

>>851
You could be autosexual, and there is nothing wrong with that. Here is a description of autsexuality: http://www.asexuality.org/wiki/index.php?title=Autosexual and a discussion on Asexual vs Autosexual, if you'd like to know more: http://www.asexuality.org/en/index.php?/topic/30870-asexual-vs-autosexual/ (This discussion has many opinions on what autosexuality is as a behavior, and how it may relate to sexual orientations.)

>>851
I do, but that's only because I know my own body better than my long term bf ever will or any man ever will.

>>851
Well, I get off to watching gay porn, while straight porn repulses me. I think I may have screwed with my impulses by watching hardcore stuff since I was a kid, and now i'm only turned on if it's taboo. (I did shlik to lesbian a few times too, I'm afraid that it'll be weird once I finally start having sex with a man)

>>855
^ this was meant for this v
>>852

>>815
My first and only sex dream ever, I decided to lose my virginity by meeting some dude offa craigslist. We met up at our motel, got a room, shucked off our clothes, and... then things got hazy. I come back to, and the man is off to the side, huffy, arms crossed, going "WELL you know YOU could have been doing something TOO" and I realized "Oh fuck, I just slept through my first time."

First and only sex dream. Yep.

Anyhoo, moral of the story is that dreams are retarded. In my case, I've always kinda felt vaginal sex to sound a little lame. Explorations of the masturbatory sort pretty much supported that feeling. With that knowledge, my subconscious threw some random shit together that kinda reaffirmed what I already knew/felt. In your case, you probably have that thought floating around in the back of your mind of "damn, I could use a good lay." All in all, the subconscious doesn't have to make sense, and when it does, it only tells you what you already know.

That being my only sex dream is... several shades of suck. The closest I've gotten since then was a pleasure/aggression zombie-esque virus outbreak, and I made the pleasure zombies uncomfortable with how I would hit on Tim Gunn. Subconscious! I realize I am virginal yet, but I masturbate! I have fantasies (that don't involve Mr. Gunn)! Get with the fucking program!

Sex dreams almost always end before penetration and it's so /frustrating/. One of the few times it did go all the way was when I was being fucked on a table by Heavy. Oh, that was my only TF2 dream too. WTF SUBCONSCIOUS?

Also, does anyone else wake up orgasming? It happened with that one Heavy dream and a handful of other times in the past for me.

I enjoy my sex dreams. Most recently I started having one about the guy from my English class. I dream that I am an expert at sex and I am flexible and I can turn any guy on.

For me though, even with my then-longtime boyfriend, sex is just kind of "meh". I find myself holding back because I don't like the way my body looks or I'm afraid of some kind of judgment. It's like, I know I can be sexy and I want to be sexy, but my body right now is kind of not what I want and I know it won't be what I want for a long time. I don't know, I just find more pleasure when I masturbate than when I'm with a partner. I also worry that I'm not proficient enough in bed than my peers.

I don't know how to phrase this question without sounding odd/possibly retarded, but is there a way to get better at sex without having sex with people? I mean, I would love to be great at sex and have more fulfilling sexual experiences, but I don't know how I would do this without straight up having sex with other people which is something I'm not prepared to do right now.

Role-play has interested me for quite sometime, but I have always shyed away from it as I honestly have no idea how to go about it. Anyone have tips or tricks in the art?

>>879
Why are you dissatisfied with your body? You need good selfesteem regarding your own looks and sex skills or you can obviously not feel adequate for a partner because you're ashamed or too shy. What do you want to change about your body? What do you like, what do you don't like?
I found the key to having sex skills simply being: Be fine with yourself, be fine with your partner, have fun and most importantly, CHILL. Nothing kills sex more than worrying too much about it.

>>893
For me, it's a combination of a flabby stomach (my stomach has been described by my ex as having a "squishy frog face" on it) as well as not being flexible. Even when I was regularly exercising, I found myself dissatisfied with my performance in bed.

The most pleasurable positions for me are when I'm contorted in weird spots, so I hate it when I get a leg cramp or I otherwise can't stretch into that position easily which is frustrating. I'm generally pretty clumsy in bed and that's the thing I get worked up about.

However, I do love my breasts. :3c

>>898
Then I'd like to repeat my last statement: Chill. I'm no psychologist but you forget that attractiveness is about the overall package, not whether or not your stomach is flabby. Mine is too but since Chi doesn't care, I don't care either. And I'm clumsy in bed, but Chi doesn't care, so I don't care either. If your partner is cool with it, don't worry! Sex is about relaxing and having a great close time with your partner, not about winning a race or something.

>>882
(Kinda offtopic comment, but I have the shoes this chick is wearing.)
You can start out with the smaller, more common stuff, like putting on office-ready wear and having a boss-secretary thing, and then move up from there. It's really about both of you being on the same page without asking.

>>898
Your ex has a squishy frog-face, and you shoulda punched him in it. The Hell with what he thought, enjoy your sex life.

>>882
This site has some excellent beginning rope type of videos: http://www.twistedmonk.com/video.htm

Basic safety notes- don't cut off anyone's circulation. Use cotton rope rather than silk scarves, cos those can slip tighter than you expected. Check the extremities of the tied-up limb(s) frequently- if they're cold or blue, or the tied-up person reports numbness or tingling, it's untying time. Get yourself a pair of heavy-duty safety scissors so that you can cut away the ropes if all Hell breaks loose.

Apart from that... it really doesn't have to be SRS BZNS. One of my favourite descriptions of bondage, courtesy of Dan Savage, is that it's "cops and robbers for grown-ups, with full frontal nudity and orgasms."

>>898
>described by my ex as having a "squishy frog face" on it

Your ex is a dick. Who says that to someone?!

Okay, I have an issue where I'm never horny. Ever. Sure, I masturbate (hands and vibrators) and I have sex with my boyfriend, but I never actually actively want to have sex or do anything sexual. I just do it without really wanting to.

It really annoys my boyfriend because I never want to have sex and makes him feel like there's something wrong with him - he keeps worrying that he's unattractive or not a good enough lay for me to want to have sex with him. The thing is, though, is that I do find him remarkably attractive and I enjoy sex when we have it. I just never get horny, so I never actively want to fuck.

Anyone have any similar stories or tips they can share?

>>1429
Yeah, There's times when I'm not horny but I'll happily participate in sex with my boyfriend. I'm normally always horny/thinking about sex (Well, I'm 20, and he's my first everything). Most of the time, I only WANT to cuddle, if it leads to more, then 'hell yes!'
For me to actually get HORNY horny, watching a good porn, reading a really good fan-fic or playing a sexy dating sim/hentai or whatever usually gets me more in the mood to want to do things.
Do you think you're supposed to think about it all the time? At first I was more like that, but after a few years with my guy, it's more of a 'go with the flow' thing than being a "horny high-schooler~". :)
I'm sure it's normal. You enjoy sex, you love your guy and you don't HATE sex, so I don't see a problem. If anything, you're less likely to run off and cheat of your man, so he should be happy! You're not some raging sex-hormone driven weirdo!

>>1443
Thanks, and I know that I'm not supposed to want to have sex all the time. The problem is, though, that since I never want to have sex, we rarely do (probably should've mentioned that in my first post). We've been dating six years and been having sex for the past one and a half or so, and we've had sex about, oh, thirty times. Maybe forty. As of right now, we haven't had sex in about a month and a half/two months. I only really get to see him one or two days a week (due to work and school and family), but really? Two months seems like a really freakin' long time.

>>1462
It really doesn't seem like a bad thing. :/ Have you ever been turned on by something? A movie, picture, story, etc?
My boyfriend and I probably only have sex 3 times a month at most, IF at all. If you enjoy each other's company or just have fun together normally, there really shouldn't be a problem. Some women just want it every second of the day (poor men. they don't like that, trust me) and some women don't. :)

Dragging this back up to the first page to ask: does ingesting cum ever make you feel sick? Like it's not like boatloads of cum or anything, but I suck my guy off once or twice and a half hour later I feel nauseated. I do the same thing with the flavoured lube we just started using.
Do I have an allergy or sensitivity or something?

>>1561
Sounds like some kind of sensitivity alright. I can't speak for anyone else, but I merely think it doesn't taste that good - It never makes me feel sick.

>>623
A friend recently revealed to me that she calls beards "facepubes" so I think it's perfectly reasonable to think of pubes as crotchbeards. And while this makes me feel more comfortable about my hair, it also makes me really, really sad that I can't shave it into a moustache-goatee combo. That'd be pretty rad.

I've always found men attractive, hot and sexy. I look at Naveen Andrews and think "Omfg I wanna BANG you!" And yet every boyfriend I get, I'm completely unattracted to the idea of having sex with them, or even kissing them. It just doesn't appeal to me, regardless of whether or not I find them physically attractive.

However, I've also known for many years that I am attracted to other women, whom I HAVE kissed and cuddled and fondled (at great length) and enjoyed it very much. So... am I a lesbian? I find men attractive, some men VERY attractive, but I don't want to have sex with them... I know I like sex, as I've had many a fun night with a vibrator, so what's missing? Can you be attracted to men and still be a lesbian? God I'm so fricking confused!

>>1750

Maybe you just happen to lean more towards girls then men, and just haven't found a dude IRL that you're willing to do?

Kinsey Scale, yo. It's pretty sweet.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kinsey_scale

>>1750
It doesn't have to be as black or white as that. Remember the Kinsey Scale: you're probably a four or five, and that's just fine, it doesn't have to labeled in a weird way.

I can kind of see where you're coming from. I identify myself as a lesbian, because in general I enjoy the company of women more than men. I find that they're nicer to cuddle, they're prettier, etc. However, I still have a "type" as far as guys are concerned, and I can recognize when a guy is hot or if he isn't. I just can't imagine EVER having sex with a guy, or even just kissing.

For me it's a matter of thinking some men are hot, but actually being physically attracted to women. It doesn't sound like there's a difference, but there really is. But again, if you're just wired in a different way, that's okay. Don't sweat over it.

Hey, I have a question/comment to add.
I have a problem with guys asking me out or making advances on me. They do nothing wrong, but even them posing the question of 'do you wanna go out to eat' (with intentions of something more later) puts me in a tizzy and I shoot them down automatically. My first and only boyfriend and I had hardly anything close to a physical relationship, but every time we fooled around, I got this unpleasant, woozy sensation in my stomach. I ignored it and figured it would go away as time went on, but it's almost worse now. I feel like I'm incompetent and I can't be with anyone because I never put anything out. I'm afraid of their completely rational expectations. I have nearly no desire to have any kind of sexual contact with either a man OR a woman. Am I asexual? Or is it just low self-worth or something?
Any sort of advice or words of wisdom would be extremely helpful, I'm kind of lost in all this.

so hey I have nothing useful to add to this thread but I just wanted to express my gratitude towards everyone here who is being helpful and open about their issues because I feel infinitely more comfortable with the subject of sexuality, especially my own, just by reading what everyone has to say. I feel normal and less alone.

>>1989
There's not really enough information here to go on. Do you WANT to be physically close to someone? Emotionally intimate with someone? Are you happy by yourself? Do you enjoy masturbating? You might want to think about all these topics, and maybe see a therapist if you're not making any headway and it's making you sad. If it's not making you sad, don't worry about it. Do whatever works for you.

>>2034
Nobody's normal, we're all freaks. Revel in it.

>>1750
>>1756

I'm similar, I find guys attractive in some ways, but mostly just faces, especially when people have interesting eyes. The rest tends to be boring to me, and I had a boyfriend for 2 days at one point, but it just felt so wrong I didn't even kiss him and instead had a mild breakdown and cleaned the entire flat.

I love my girlfriend though <3 I'm /definitely/ attracted to girls.

>>2037
I like having emotional connections with people, but as soon as it gets to even kissing intimately, I back away. That's all I really have trouble with, anything you wouldn't do in public. I'm alright being single, and masturbation is pretty fulfilling at this point. I just wish I didn't push potential suitors away so much, it's ruined far too many friendships. Thank you for the advice!

I realize that the shaving/waxing/whatnot convo has kind of passed, but I have to ask. I'm a dude, and I want to know if there's any way I can get somebody to do a "mankini wax" for me without it being completely awkward. Like, I don't even know what kind of places do this stuff.

I'm 19 and I've never masturbated. I don't know how I'm supposed to feel about this.

>>2133
Anywhere that does xxx/bikini/brazilian waxes will generally do "back, crack n sack" as well. Try malls & stuff, I guess.

Alternatively, the MANRY RAWRRR option is to get yourself a pair of tweezers.

>>2135
It's not obbligatory, you know.

>>2144
I know it's not... I just feel I'd get "WHAT!?" reactions if people I knew found out. It's not like I lie about it or anything, they all know I've decided to practice abstinence, but I just smile 'n' nod whenever the topic of masturbation is brought up. I just feel like I'm the only one in the world who hasn't. It is a little incriminating reading/hearing about everyone having so much experience and I have none :/

>>2148
eh calm down, I've never masturbated either, it's no big deal. Met a couple of friends who haven't either. Its definitely not in the majority but whatever.

>>2148
I understeand perfectly how you feel. While it isn't important or socially indispensable, other people sometimes seem so eager to talk about this kind of stuff it feels like you're being left behind. I always masturbated but i used to not be able to actually orgasm because everyone talking about orgasms here and orgasms there made me so anxious i couldn't relax enough for this. (in fact when i actually managed to come i was VERY disappointed at the experience, eh eh!)
but anyways, yes, i understeand and you shouldn't worry about it, it's really not a big deal. Plus, if you feel like you're being left behind, you can always actually try it, you don't even need other people, it's the easiest thing in the world.

Idk if i made sense, i'm sleepy as hell.

>>2150
>>2151
Cool, thanks guys. I'm glad I was able to get that out, albeit anonymously, and have some people support me.

I've been thinking about trying it because I recently just discovered my sexuality with my first sewious relationship so I'm feeling things I haven't before :S There are some other bullshitty mental idiosyncracies and insecurities that keep me from just diving in and trying shit but I think I might just do it.

>>1989
Holy shit, are you me?

I find that I have a hard time really fantasizing going solo, too concentrated on figuring out what hits the right buttons. I just can't seem to really relax to make it better. Any tips?

Last night, Mama's man made a passing joke about running a red light when we have our first time because I'd likely bleed a little anyway. We got into a serious convo about it though, at which point he gave me the whole "It's part of your body, it's natural, it's beautiful" speech and how it actually doesn't skeeve him out like I thought it would and then he decided to finger me, which was a little "not sure if want" at first, but then he's like "I'm not going to lick my fingers or anything, chill."

Anyone in here that has experience with it and willing to offer a nugget of wisdom?

>>2255
I bled my first time. It wasn't that big a deal, really. Wasn't a lot, just had a little patch of blood on my underwear that I knew for certain wasn't menstrual (wasn't the right color or... shape? if that makes sense). Really, as long as your man knows that it might happen, I don't think it'll matter much. My first time didn't even hurt for that matter, and I'd never stuck anything in there any wider than a tampon at that point. It was actually my second time (the night after I lost my virginity) that hurt like a bitch. Like, so much that we had to stop. Now, I don't know if it was because of my newly ripped hymen or my inside bits being sore from the night before, but yeah. Wasn't fun. Dunno if that'd happen to you too, but I'd personally recommend taking it slow for longer after your first time than I did.

Straight male anon here.

>>2255
I've been with a couple of first-timers and there's not been any blood. You might bleed, you might not. If your hymen's already broken (say, from masturbating, fingering, sport, riding, that time you did the splits, or any other cause) I undertand that blood isn't too likely. Pain, however, is quite possible but not always necessary.

When my first girlfriend and I had sex the first time, we already knew each other's bodies very well. We had a lot of foreplay and used lube (and a condom, natch).

My advice would be to get your man to finger you for a while first, to get you ready. The looser you are the less it will hurt, and the more you can focus on feeling good. You could have a few practice sessions first if you wanted.

If/when you do take the plunge, make sure you go slow, and don't go too deep until you know what you're doing - getting whacked in the cervix is, I understand, pretty painful if you're not expecting it.

If (as is entirely possible) everything goes horribly wrong, it's best to laugh about it. Hilariously awkward sex makes a great story to laugh about later. Then, since you're talking about sex, you may as well try again and see if you can do better.

Also, your boyfriend sounds like a great guy. I know that menstruation weirds me out a little (mainly because I start worrying about keeping sheets & clothes clean, etc). He's a champ. Find some random guy to give him a high-five from me or something.

>>2292
Huh. Apparently I failed to anon that post. Derp.

In that case, have some advice with a face, BLU Scout Mama. I wish you well.

>>2255
Le Boyfriend for this anon isn't keen on it, but more "won't blood go everywhere" than "EW GROSS". But that's fine by me because I adore watching him get off to my touch and I can concentrate more on making him feel amazing when I'm not OOH MISTER BOYFRIEND OOH YES, which makes me feel like Awesome Girlfriend.

Previous boyfriend, though, was all YEAH WHATEVS. ANY VAGINA IS GOOD VAGINA, DON'T CARE WHAT'S COMING OUT OF IT. But he was a bit crap in bed so I suppose he'd best just be grateful for anything he got.

(I am not kind to exes. Friends with most of them, which makes ragging on them hilarious. (lol ragging) )

Anyways so returning to intial response,
I didn't bleed my first time, but I had had some experience with fingers for some months beforehand, and also horseriding I guess. Wasn't even sore, but first-time-boyfriend did have a serious case of tiny penis. First time with Current Boyfriend made me sore enough to have to wait a couple days before trying anything else.

Note: I'm not saying size is everything, by any means. First-time-boyfriend of the tiny penis could do things with his tongue you wouldn't believe! But one of my favourite parts of my relationship with Current Boyfriend was when we realised that the persistent inexplicable mid-sex softies were in fact caused by the blood supply being cut off by regular-size condoms. We got out a ruler and WA-HEY YE'RE A BIG BOY EN'T YE OCH CRIVENS YE WEE SCUNNER

(neither of us are Scottish)

(or Feegle)

>>2303
... And what would the cut-off (heh) point be for regular-size comdoms?

I may have a similar issue.

Sage for totally blowing my own trumpet (heh).

>>2310
Um, I think it was 55mm? Which, naturally, doesn't help if you're imperial. But it might be brand-specific. It said on the box, anyhow.

Also, anon has a question for Anon:
Is it weird to get off, and I mean COMPLETELY GET OFF, to Boyfriend jacking off? I mean, (current problem is current) I fell to the Communists, so he was sorta sitting on my belly and fondling boobs, fierce kissage was occurring, I was touching all over his weiner, and he bloody lasts so frigging long (not always a good thing, who'd've thought? I just get SORE and GOD, BOYFRIEND, AREN'T YOU DONT YET?) and my hands got tired so I was all LOOK CAN YOU JUST DO IT? I LIKE TO WATCH (which has always been true) and as soon as his hand was all up in that and moving and his face...gah, getting all hot'n'bothered just thinking about it. Anyway, he spooged (my new favourite word) all up on my upper body and BY GOD I CAME BUCKETS.

(Look this is a TMI thread if I can't give graphic descriptions of my own sex life here then I can't give them anywhere)

Anyways so I guess I feel like "he jacked off onto my tits" should make me feel used or whorish or objectified or something, but maybe I am just a feminist's worst nightmare. After all, I also have a desk job, do housework and wear a bra (most of the time)

>>2345
Pfft, also, here have some fucking brackets, fuck.

(captcha="choput". I think this is a sound effect in cricket maybe?)

It's not weird to get RIDICULOUSLY turned on role-playing with a friend... right?

Pic related. Lordy.

>>2355
No

It isn't

In fact that's how i discovered a good deal of my current sexuality

>>2345
Not weird. Hot.

Also lol. "Fell to the Communists" indeed.

>Sad breakup with boyfriend
>Missing him loads
>Also missing him in my pants
>Masturbate to fantasies about a female friend instead

Feels good, man.

>>2355

If it was scenarios that are completely devoid of anything remotely sexual, maybe a little weird. Otherwise I'm guilty of that too.

I have this guy I love, and he loves me back, but we're waiting until we meet each other in real life, etc. But this isn't a relationship thread.

The possible problem is that we haven't done anything sexual with each other. We've talked about having sex, about our sexual experiences with other people. Neither of us have qualms about camming (he's done it on a somewhat public chatroom, while I have a cam-buddy that I "get with" once a month or thereabouts). I just don't feel the urge to cam with him, despite having a HUGE sexual attraction towards him (and I'm assuming he's at least somewhat physically attracted to me). I just feel as it may, I dunno, cheapen the relationship. Am I thinking alright, or is there something deeper that I'm missing? Goodness knows we're going to fuck when we do meet, but I feel odd not wanting to cam with him.

That said, I'm also kind of afraid that his dick might be too big for me. I haven't seen...erm...good pictures of his dick, but from his descriptions (which I'm pretty damn sure he's not lying about), I'm actually kind of scared I simple won't be able to accommodate him. He claims that he prefers oral sex over anal, but nearly every story he's told me thus far has been about him fucking rather than being blown (he's a top and refuses to bottom).

Ugh, I'm probably thinking too deep into this. I'm sure we'll somehow find a way to make the sex enjoyable for both of us, but I'm still worried.

>>2355
Yeah no I discovered more about my own sexuality RPing with a friend than I did dating people, don't you worry about a thing.

Mmkay, so, bringing this thread back to front page with releavant news - I'm saying thanks to everyone who gave first-time advice to little old me, because everything went absolutely smashingly. Boyfriend loves going down on me, so getting me all prepared was great. He's sizeable, but for some reason (I chalk it up to doing ballroom when I was younger) it didn't hurt. Now, this was only a few hours ago, so I've yet to find out if I'll be sore tomorrow morning, but god damn, it was nice and romantic and perfect and not akward at all.

I apologize for all the people in this world who didn't or will have such a fantastic cherry-popping as I did.

>>2629
Very glad to hear that! I hope more awesome sex will follow. Make sure you both share a pace, try new things out as you go along and wand to and things we surely be awesome.

After making up with the ex, we've so far agreed to be friends with benefits, and I am super duper happy, this probably couldn't have turned out better.

I feel like we're great together because we're both such massive perverts and just about every kink one of us has mentioned, the other has agreed to. Such as me doing him with a strap-on, while he is tied up wearing ladies undergarments (thanks, Perry J, for that X Dress link in /gay/). Shit's awesome, bro.

Now my joyful gushing is over and done with, though, I have a question. Are there any Ausfags who have ever bought a good electric pussy shaver? One that's not going to cost me an arm and a leg? I'm doing okay at the moment with my ordinary little manual razor, though it's hard to maneuver around my, um, area.
If an Australian purchase is impossible then I could maybe splash out and buy international, but still.

>>2690
Tweezers. They're like hardcore razors.

Oh god I lied
I thought that the "sleeping through sex" dream was my only sex dream, but while I tended to my pleasures today, I remembered that I had dreamed about sex with Detective Gumshoe. We were both nude and in suspended congress, and I was writing notes all during. After a bit, I decided that that was enough, and slid off his cock while he reacted with something along the lines of "wait, no..." and was unhappy because he had to finish up on his own. Apparently I'd done it just for research.
So I've had two sex dreams.
Sage for not having any relevance to anything (I had to correct my lie).

I've been too tired to fap for the last week. This is so frustrating. ;_;

I'm so horny that the catchpa is 'bonoqz' and all I can think is 'bonor > boner > lady boner.' Ffff. Saged because I am embarrassed and frustrated and horny and TIRED.

So, I'm at a loss here and extremely confused. I was originally gonna put this in the feelings thread, but I figure this was more the place to put this wall of text.

To start off, I can't say that I find myself attracted to girls in general. I'm straight for the most part but my god do I have a soft spot for those chubby cuties.
I would love nothing more than to hold them, cuddle with them, kiss them, and just spoil them rotten.

However, and here's where things are screwed up for me, I don't find myself sexually attracted to them nor do I see myself ever being in a good relationship with another female. I mean, I always get off on straight chubby porn but whenever I watch lesbians go at it, nothing. It's not that I have a problem with it and everyone important in my life would be completely okay with me dating another female, I just don't see myself having sex with one.

I was pretty okay with this until I found myself having a small crush on one of the girls in my group. I could go on about how adorable she is and how much she deserves a knight in shining armor, but my point would be moot. I just can't be her knight. Part of me just wants to have this warm and close relationship with her, but another part of me would much rather stick with males and be the spoiled one.

What really bugs the hell out of me is that I know for a fact that if I were born male I would have asked her out the second I saw her.
What's even worse is that I get off on imaging MYSELF being MALE and fucking her wherever the hell I damn well please.
She baked me cookies for Christ's sakes, oh how could I NOT imagine her in some cute little get up in the kitchen?

ANON IS SO CONFUSED

Is it odd to have fetishes you never want to explore (or realistically can't), but still can cum harder when masturbating to than any of your boyfriends have ever been able to make you cum?

I'm probably just messed up.

Hate to brag, but oh man is my newly-spawned sex life going nicely (you know, out of the two times we've slept together). I love how cute he is when he's on top, but I love how much deeper it is when I'm going cowgirl. Good thing both of us have no issue with a good-natured Chinese fire drill.

>>2925
I would like to say - absolutely not. I've got a morbid plethora of mild to severe guro, psychological/shock horror and rape fantasies (off the top of my head), but does that mean I actually want to be vivisected or sexually assaulted? Hell no.
A more specific example, my friend accidentally got me onto dental drills.. DENTAL DRILLS? Yeah. I don't actually want one of those near me unless I've booked an appointment with a dentist, thank you very much.

If your pic is related, I would venture that yours are a tad interesting, but nevertheless I wouldn't worry about them - especially if you know they're mostly just gonna be fapping material only. It's only when (and if) they become something you want to get more adventurous about that you ought to be careful.

>>2928
I'm glad to hear it!

Though that does remind me. I'm terrible at sex. I don't like being on top because I literally cannot feel anything and I usually only do missionary because it's the only position where I can feel something but everyone thinks that's boring. Help?

>>2938
I don't have anything to contribute to the TMI discussions but I wanted to say that it made me laugh a lot to see this part of Kaz and my collaboration here.
Carry on with your fappin' and sexin', TF2chan, you are all the coolest.

I sometimes get turned on by the fantasy of being a fully functional hermaphrodite, or being male.
On the other hand, it makes me feel weird later.

Guys, I'm so sexually frustrated it hurts. I'm sure everyone is well aware of my situation by now.

Role playing used to be how I went about sex, and now that that connection has been severed this role player is just sitting around wondering what to do with herself. Apparently, former girlfriend is still fine with role playing since it's fun for both of us, but dammit, all of our scenarios were always romantic in some way. It just isn't the same without that aspect!

This sucks. It sucks when you're horny and you have no way to vent.
Masturbation is out of the question, given where I live. That, and it's always weirded me out.

Okay, so this female right here really wants to shave her south area. Not because "my boyfriend asked", since I'm single, but because FUCK THAT CARPET IS ANNOYING and I love to feel smooth and stuff. I already cut it short with a scissor, but I really wanted to go all the way. BUT I don't know how to proceed in such enviroment.
I shave my legs with razors and my armpits with wax (seriously, why everyone gets so freaked out by wax? It's awesome!), and I don't know wich option would be better for the more intime parts. If you ppl have some advice it would be great to know it. And of course, what "haircuts" are better.

>>2977
I've gone fully bare and with a landing strip in the past, and what I find is that the latter is better for me. Sure, being completely bare feels nice for a little while, but when you have to go without maintaining it for a period of time it gets very itchy growing back in. Yes, there's upkeep with the french manicure, but it's not nearly as itchy on the front area and therefore less bothersome. Or at least that's the way I look at it.

This isn't exactly sex-related, but it's related to 'things that make you feel good that are frowned upon by society', so I figure this is an okay place to put it.
Okay, so I'm kind in my first time relationship-thing at the moment. It's really great, but we haven't been seeing each other that long. He's fab and we've mostly just done making out and that where I discovered I like getting bitten. I REALLY like getting bitten. As soon as I got home from seeing him, I looked in the mirror and freaked out over the monster hickies on both sides of my neck and on my chest. Now, I don't love my hickies, but I don't see them as something terrible (makeup was invented for a reason). I want to keep being bitten, but I worry about the hicky issuse. Would the simplest thing be and ice pack and makeup, or is there some other way to prevent hickies?
I also want to hear the chan's opinion of hickies/biting. Does anyone else like biting? If you see someone with hickies, do you assume things or do you not care?

>>2998
The best way to prevent hickies is not to give them or receive them but that's kinda hard to do haha. You can always tell him to give you hickies in other areas where you can hide the marks easily, like your sides or your shoulders. If you want to get rid of the marks, this is what I do. I get a brush similar to the one in the pic and I massage the marks away, In a circular motion awhile dabbing them with some ice once in awhile. This will help fade the marks away enough that people won't notice. or sometimes they just go away!

>>2998
Mmm, biting. I like to bite.

My advice?
Options include:
1. Start wearing scarves, necties, etc.
2. Train partner to bite without leaving marks (it's doable, but requires restraint ;) )
3. Train partner not to bite your neck.
4. Say "Fuck it" and wear your hickies with pride. :D

Also, Captcha was "chinal". Like anal, but with a chin.

>>2998
I had the same issue when I first started dating my man. Unfortunately scarves are unusual in 25 degree weather. I don't hate them because unf being bitten. So uh. I don't really care anymore, but ever since I've started teaching I know I can't have visible ones anymore. Like every other poster I'd say ask him to bite you in places other than your neck. Shoulders are usually a good place depending on what your man is into. Mine is absolutely obsessed with my tits (surprise) so I sometimes end up with bruises on them. He bites me on the shoulder and back on the neck when we're doing anal, and that's always covered by either my hair or the collar of my shirt. I'm sure after long enough you'll find a workable way to cover them up when you need to. I managed to cover them up when they were bloody messes up the side of my neck, so I'm sure you'll manage.

Kind of related, in the heat of passion or whatever my man starts scraping his nails down my back. Always breaks the skin and always feels fucking awesome. BUT taking a shower that next morning is not so awesome. Any tips on how to the searing pair or just take it like a man?

>>3079
>Any tips on how to the searing pair or just take it like a man?

Oh dear. That's a lot of mistakes. 'Any tips on how to prevent or lessen the searing pain, or should I just take it like a man?'

>>2998
If you need to cover it up, get some tattoo concealer from a professional theatre make up company. People in theatre and dance always have to cover tattoos, so if you're worried about needing to hide a dark blemish, invest in some of this stuff. Ben Nye has excellent quality theatre make up, and they have tutorials for most of their products, including this one on how to cover tattoos (and other similar marks) http://www.stagemakeuponline.com/howto/tattoo-cover.php

>>3080
Possibly something involving Aloe Vera or Savlon.

Merry Christmas to ME from the TeratoMate.

>>3164

Wow. Sex toys these days are becoming more and more like ornaments...

>>3165

Obviously I'm doing something wrong by keeping all of my rubber dicks in a bag where no one can see them.

Yes. I have a Bag of Dicks.

>>3164
It's so lovely and shiny and pretty and I need to stop it with my sextoy ADD.

In other news, life is smashing. Thought I'd be squicked by boyfran's finger up my ass, but it's actually quite nice. Also, I found out that a pharmacy near me is selling twelve packs of the condoms we like for, like, eight bucks. Compared to a three-pack at CVS for six-fifty, I like this plan a lot.

>>3164
Ffff, I just bought that on pure impulse a few weeks ago. It's really fantastic and I gotta recommend it whether you're into tentacles or not. Good size and shape, fun texture, and being glass it is quite hygienic, easy to warm up (or cool down...), and looks pretty too.

Though now I am not sure if I should feel weird knowing I own the same [kickass] dildo Marty does. Kinda gives me a weird vibe somehow. ...No pun intended.

>>3170
We're dildo bros! I don't feel at all odd about other people having the same dildo as I do, mainly because I've been known to review and recommend dildos. This one, for instance, the Tantus Inc "Hank" model. I think everyone should own one, and, what do you know, a lot of my friends now do.

This thread still alive enough to ask for some guidance?

-Someone who needs a lot of it.

>>3266
Oh definitely. Things are just slow moving lately.

Can't say I'll be the one to answer your query, but ask away.

>>3268


Ok, here goes nothing.

Due to depression in high school/college and the medications that followed, I ended up pretty much asexual for a long time. So during the time when most people first start learning about their body, I felt nothing. Not that I knew what I was doing, but my body certainly wasn't giving me any feedback either.

Now I'm in my early 20s, and have been off meds for almost 6 months now, and I'm starting to... wake up. I guess.

My body is finally responding, and I'm finding myself more attracted to people in general (of both sexes. That was a surprise.)

My question is, what now? How do I catch up with the rest of you?

>>3272
Don't think about it in terms of 'catching up'. That's something I struggle with too, being 25 and never been kissed (...yeah) but it's not some big sex race. Just experiment on your own, find out what feels good... I'm sure other anons can lend us relationship advice but as far as the 'awakening' goes, don't think of it as catching up but as the start of something or just plain having fun.

>>3274

I got this advice from the one person I trusted to ask irl, but it hasn't helped so far, because I don't even know what to "try" in terms of both the purely physical, as well as the dating world.

>>3275

Watch porn. You'll figure out what you like quickly enough, and it'll give you some ideas about what you might want to try.

PORN ISN'T A BAD THING. IF YOU ARE A COUPLE YOU CAN TOTALLY WATCH IT TOGETHER FOR IDEAS ON STUFF YOU CAN DO WITH EACH OTHER. IT IS NOTHING TO BE SCARED OF.

I am an orientation riddle.

I am more sexually interested in women than men, but I am romantically and sexually interested in a male friend who is bisexual, even though I suspect him to be predominately gay. I am also interested in my best gal pal, is having problems with her gender identity, And I would never pursue a longterm relationship with a women, even though I suspect myself to rate a 4 on the Kinsey scale. What am I?

Hint: I have no fucking clue.

>>3276

I like written stuff... not the visual so much.

>>3279

Nah, you know you don't really have to put yourself in an specific label if you have no fucking clue about it. If all else fails, you always have Po-Mo. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pomosexual

>>3279
Try stuff, see what happens, and labels be damned.

>>298
I know it's been awhile, but I can't do it. My mom won't me have money to go and buy a lock, and I can't even use the one I have installed in the door. She wants it wide open when she's home because she decided she doesn't trust me (no idea what I did).

I don't have a brush handle, but I tried my hands, felt clueless, and stopped. I've fantasized before without touching myself (or looked at fanart porn/fanfic, can't do irl pics or videos yet), but I always had to stop. I'm sorry.

>>3349
You might want to try doing stuff in the shower. If you have good water pressure, you can use that to your advantage.

>>3349
>>3352
Agreed, the shower seems to be the location of choice for my friends who live with their parents. Me, I usually wait until they're asleep, not because they are too nosy but because I just don't want to be interrupted. You can also wait until the house is empty for a known amount of time. Shower is the most convenient though, in terms of it nearly always being at your disposal. You can also use the water pressure as an aid, as mentioned--detachable massage heads are great, but if you don't have one, you can utilize a little physics. The spray will be more intense near the bottom of the tub because of gravity and acceleration, so you can lie down and angle it so it's hitting your clit. Just remember not to get water directly in your vagina. Not sure how likely that is to happen but people always say not to do it and I'm sure it's for good reason.

As far as finding a trusty object to help you out, it helps to be creative. I've got one friend who utilized a combo of empty ramune bottle (glass = easy to keep clean) and old electric toothbrush (vibrations) for a while and it apparently worked like a charm. Beyond that, I recommend bringing a mirror along so you can see what you're doing and figure out the terrain, and never ever feel like you "failed" because you couldn't come or get something to feel good. Take everything as a positive learning experience and a step towards improving your sex life even if you get nothing else out of it. And good luck!

>>3357

Embarrassing Bodies says not to get water in your vagina (also known as douching) because it ends up washing away the good bacteria that stops you from getting easily infected.

>>3287

Speaking of written stuff, where does one even find it?

(Besides here, of course. Yowza.)

>>3357
Just don't use the open end of an empty bottle.

"I accidentally a whole coke bottle" indeed.

I have learned that if I don't feel there is any strong connection between the participants, porn and smut do nothing for me. This isn't exactly news, but just something becoming more apparent.

I'm such a naive sap. Holding on to this notion of so called "love".

>>3399
Dude. Mang. Are you kidding

You know how important emotion is to me? So important that, although I promised myself I wouldn't (lest I end up corrupting this dear part of my childhood), I ended up getting dragged into this part of the fandom. Yup. It was sorta like, "Oh man, I get to have sexyfaces/body expressions without the dicks? MOTHERFUCKIN DREAM COME TRUE." I've been way, way too embarrassed to draw anything, but, uh, the point is emotion and expressions/causes of emotion are so important I am willing to plow through dicks and robots and what-have-you just to get to it.

The only exception to this I have ever seen is with tits. Tits are just hot and that's really about it (though nipples are pretty weird to me, for some reason). Vaginas, on the other hand, not so much. I have an odd hymen phobia of sorts; my blood pressure plummets whenever I even hear, say, something about tampons.

...Though I can see how your point is the connection and not necessarily the emotion buuut connection is also pretty important/awesome yknow

I think I have found my new home. You guys are all awesome.

>>882
Sexytimes roleplay vet, here. Not sure if you're interested in more archetypal rp (Schoolgirl, "Daddy," etc) or actual character rp (Medic, Heavy, etc), but in general, I'd say talk about it extensively with your partner(s) beforehand, have an idea about what you want to do (I don't script, but I know some people prefer to). Especially when you're just starting out, don't be afraid of pausing a scene to work something out OOC-- I can never stress communication enough, make sure you're both(/all) having a good time. Costume, accents and the like are great for getting into character and lots of fun, but not necessary-- don't stress about props. Blindfold + credit card edge= hot knifeplay scene, for instance. Most of all, of course, relax and have fun taking a break from reality for a little while. [stfu, pedantic self. wat]

>>2998 OH MAN. I love my GF to bite the hell out of me and I'm her dom! It's my job to beat the snot out of her! But my clitoris is attached to my neck and shoulders, apparently. Makes for interesting role reversal! --No idea how to avoid hickies and bruises other than biting in strategic places where clothing will about cover it, like right where your neck merges into your shoulder (I am anatomy expert).

So. So are Girlfriend and I the only people on this chan who roleplay tf2 characters in bed? Guys, it's so much fun.

Sometimes we Rule 63 one or both of the characters, but, yeah, mostly it's two chicks pretending to be two dudes. --That's most of our sex lives anyway, hm.

>>916

Marty, I just want you to know, you're my bdsm hero.

I'm gonna be 25 this year. I've been celibate (mostly on purpose, I guess?) for almost three years. I've had one relationship, which was long distance for one year and under the same roof for three months (I moved across the country) before I caught him in bed with another woman. It was a crushing blow, to say the least.

I'm no closer to delving into or understanding my sexuality than I am to attaining nirvana. I sublimate my sexual desires into exercise and writing. I'm interested in exploring my sexuality, especially D/s, but have no one to turn to, not remotely. I also find myself attracted to men less, and women more, insanely so to women who are transitioning FTM. I feel ridiculous mostly, and try to ignore my sexuality altogether, but I'm also sort of regretting not having the opportunity to explore it.

Damn and blast it all.

How would one go about discovering how to turn their partner on? I hear the word "explore" but I'm just too afraid...and I don't want to outright ask them because I'm afraid that will sound stupid or ruin the mood... I feel like an idiot, but halp? :/

>>3164

I WANT IT.

>>3582

I'm REALLY curious about this phenomenon, because I can sure-as-shit tell ya Anon: you aren't the only one who has become more attracted to women-folk as time goes on.

Bumping because help in love and sex is always relevant.

>>3663
I find it a good practice to just go with it and ask them if they like it. If they've got a clear hnngh face or moan or something, stick to your guns because they like it. If they don't like it, they'll ask you not to do that. Also, you could ask them to show you what they like, because not only can you use that to make them happy, but depending on the action, you can start to whack off to what they're doing... and that makes some people turned on to know that they're turning you on without trying, and it's an endless cycle of hnngh.

Bumping because I got a question about dem sex toys. Since my knowledge about them is completely theoretical so far I will have some stupid questions - Be aware.

Sooo, I've been looking at some vibrators online and these fellas popped up. I don't know the English term for them but apparantly, they are for vaginal stimulation without actually being inserted. Some kind of massage thing, I guess?

Now I want to know, ladies: How do these exactly work? Which parts are stimulated? Are they recommendable?